You may, or may not, remember the 1986 Basketball Eastern Conference Finals. A young Michael Jordan and the Chicago Bulls were squaring off against Larry Bird and the Boston Celtics. What many people remember from that series is Michael Jordan’s game 2 performance. In that single game alone, Jordan scored 63 points, which still stands a playoff game record. The thing that stands out to me, and to most of my Boston friends, is that the Bulls lost that same game.
Michael Jordan set a playoff single game scoring record that stands 25 years later, but his team lost the game, and ultimately lost the series. I think it goes to show, that it takes more than one person to win a basketball game.
It also takes more than parents to raise a great young man or woman. It takes a team. Many parents try to do it all by themselves. They try to be the superstar parent. They may even score 63 points all by themselves. The trouble is, parents can be the Michael Jordan of the parenting world, and still lose their kids.
I have written previously about how kids need multiple voices speaking in their life here. Kids who have no voices speaking into their life, outside of a miracle, are not likely to grow up to be Godly men and women. Kids who have a all-star parent have a better shot; but how much better off is the kid who also has a youth pastor, or a children’s pastor or Sunday School teacher who is investing in their life? How much better off is the kid who has close family friends that they know they can go to when they need help with something?
The reality is, even if you are the best parent in the world, there is coming a day when your child will want to talk to someone else about their problems, not you. In fact, in may be because you are such a great parent, and love your kid so much, that they don’t feel comfortable coming to you. You are too close to the situation. When this happens, will your child have not just someone, but the right someone, they feel comfortable talking to? Will they be going to their friends who will tell them who knows what, or going to someone that you know reflects your families values and priorities?
Who they are going to go to for advice depends on the team you are building when they are young…or whether you are building a team at all.