How to Pet a Porcupine

I discovered something new in a staff meeting a few weeks ago, and that is that you can pet a porcupine without getting hurt. I have never actually pet a porcupine, but I was told it is possible without a follow-up trip the hospital, if you do it correctly.


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If you want to pet a porcupine without getting stuck by a bunch of quills you don’t run up and startle it.  You don’t quickly scoop it up into your hands and give it a big hug.  If you want to pet a porcupine you have to develop trust with it.  First, you hold out your hand to see if it wants to come near and sniff you. Only after it sniffs you can you pet it, but you have to do it a certain way starting at the head and petting down.  To pet a porcupine any other way could potentially hurt…a lot.

Some people are a lot like porcupines. They have quills, and they will stick you if you handle them the wrong way.    You know the kind of people I am talking about, they tend to be a bit grouchy, pessimistic, standoffish and avoid personal contact, have a tendency to complain and point out the bad in a situation, etc…  These people tend to be a lot like porcupines.  If you run up and startle them you’re going to get hurt.  If you try to pressure them into doing something you’re going to get hurt.  If you cross their path in a way they don’t like, start looking for the nearest hospital.

To pet one of these porcupines requires developing trust just like a real porcupine. No, holding out your hand to see if they sniff you is probably not the best way to go about it, but spending time getting to know them is.  Learning about their perspective, their past, their priorities can give you insight in how best to go about working and getting along with them.  Taking the time to building trust with can go a very long way, and save you a lot of pain in the end.  Just as I am sure petting a real porcupine is an amazing experience, I know that getting someone who is a bit prickly on your side can be just as fulfilling.

Also, for those who are pastors of churches and have opportunity to work with porcupines, the reality is that they are also sheep in need of a good shepherd. They can’t simply be dismissed. You can’t just steer clear of them like you might a real porcupine in the wild. You have to learn to pet them.  You have to learn to lead them. So you might as well do it the right way, and save yourself some pain.

Worship Leads to Missions

Charles Spurgeon once said, “There is only only step from rapturous worship to a radiant missionary spirit.”

To The Ends of the Earth

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The Lord’s Prayer starts out in worship by saying “Our Father, hallowed be thy name.”  The next line is about missions, “your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

Worship leads to missions.  Or, perhaps I should say, true worship leads to missions.  If we worship God wholeheartedly then then out of that pure worship you would expect to see commitment to what is most important to Him.  If on the other hand our worship is half-hearted then one would expect some to see some pathetically diluted down form of Christianity lived out in the life of the “worshiper.”

So the question to ask is does our worship lead us to be passionate about those things that God is passionate about?  Does our worship lead to missions?

Recent Reading

Fairly often I get asked what I am reading.  Here are a few books I just finished, or currently have down off the shelf…

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Look Unto Me: The Devotions of Charles SpurgeonFor $5 this book is a steal.  I have been reading this book devotionally on-and-off for some time now, and the days I do read it I am always challenged.

The Hole In Our Gospel by Richard Stearns – Our church takes the month of October to focus on missions, so my Home Care Group decided to work through The Hole In Our Gospel by World Vision’s Richard Stearns.  Some of the group may have just participated in watching the DVDs.  Those, however,  who took the time to read the book as well were additionally challenged to do more to fight against world hunger, lack of clean water, education, shelter, medication, and for billions of people around the world a lack of an adequate presentation of the gospel.

Think Orange by Reggie Joiner – I have slowly been reading through this book by Reggie on family ministry.  We just started using Orange Curriculum in our main children’s services at Calvary this past week so I thought I would read through the book as well.   This book is a must read for any pastor, but especially for children or youth pastors.  It discusses engaging parents in what is going on at church with their kids, recruiting mentors to work with families, provoking kids and parents to work on their relationship, and a whole lot more.

The Accidental Billionaires: The Founding of Facebook by Ben Mezrich – This is a bit of guilty pleasure reading for me.  It’s my nerd side coming out.  I just love finding out how successful companies, organizations and people got started…. especially when it involves computers.  :)

No Perfect People Allowed: Creating a Come-as-you-are Culture in the Church by John Burke – As a pastor I always try to be reading something on the church.  This book is a great read to get you thinking about what we could do as a church to be more inviting to those in a post-Christian culture.

Primal by Mark Batterson – I’ll probably say more about this book in a later post, but this book is a great for anyone who is looking for more depth in their relationship with God.  Primal is about getting back to an authentic Christian faith.

Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln by Doris Kearns Goodwin – I honestly haven’t picked this book up in a while.  But I love reading history.

Spoken from the Heart by Laura Bush – Just like history, biography isn’t something I read real consistently, so this auto-biography by Laura Bush has been on my shelf (actually my kindle) for a while, but I am slowly getting through it.

Well, that’s what I have been reading?  Any recommendations on what I should read next?

A Question [Great Quotes]

“Sometimes I would like to ask God why He allows poverty, suffering and injustice when He could do something about it.”

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“Well, why don’t you ask Him?”

“Because I’m afraid He would ask me the same question.”

– Anonymous

Tell Your Kids That They Can Do Anything

There is nothing your kids can’t do if God has called them to do it. It doesn’t matter how difficult it is. It doesn’t matter how large the challenge. If God has called them, then they can do it.


Phillippians 4:13 puts it this way, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”  This verse isn’t saying we can choose do whatever we want and we will be successful.  I could choose to pack my bags, move to Japan, and enroll to be a professional sumo wrestle (which I would need a lot of God’s strength for!), but odds are it isn’t going to pan out so well for me.  What this verse is saying when God calls us to do something, if we follow his leading, we will be successful.

God calls kids to do some amazing stuff, even when they are still kids.  I’ve seen kids raise thousands of dollars for missions, feed the homeless, go on missions trips around the world, and so much more.  As it has been said before, kid’s are not the future of the church, they are the church! Kid’s can do some great things.

I pray that throughout their lives when God calls kids to do difficult things, things they even know they can’t do in their own strength, that they will trust him and do them anyway. Whether he calls them to be a pastor, a school teacher in the inner city, or run for President, I pray that our kids would hear God’s voice and obey.

The trouble with kids and trusting God to do amazing things is that a lot of times other people get in the way.  They say medical school is too hard for them.  Being a missionary is too dangerous and too far away.  That there is to slim a chance of being a professional golfer.  They discourage the dream that God planted in the child’s heart.

There is nothing your child can’t do when God is calling them.  As parents one of the responsibilities we have is to help our kids learn to hear God’s voice, and learn to follow it once they hear….no matter how difficult a task He is calling them to do.

Stop Telling Your Kids They Can Be Anything They Want!

Stop telling your kids they can be anything they want.  Really, stop doing it.  There are two reasons you should stop.  They can’t, and they shouldn’t.

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Your kid can’t be anything they want.  I am 5’10”.  The average male has an 18” vertical jump, and I am not sure that I am average.  I am also not sure what my free point shooting average is, but I know that I have a hard time making jump shots.  I cannot be a professional basketball player.  Sure I could work really hard, and get better.  I might even be able to get better than my friends, but even if I gave it everything I had the odds are I would never be a professional basketball player.  The bottom line is that we all have different gifts and talents, and there are some things we do not have the ability to do.  Your child can’t be anything they want.

But even if your child could do anything they wanted, they still shouldn’t.  God has created us all with a plan for our lives. One of the best things a parent can do is help their child discover what God created them to do, and help their child nurture that calling in their life.  Why let your kid settle for second best?  Help them discover the singular reason they were created.  Help them discover what God created them to do.

You kids can’t be anything they want, and even if they could be anything, they shouldn’t.

A Moment That Changed My Life

There have been a few moments that have radically changed my life.  The moment I became a Christian.  When Becky and I met, and when we got married.  The day my son was born.

Nicaragua Poverty

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There was another moment that changed my life.  It happened while I was on a missions trip to Mexico.

I was a 21 year old intern working for the Youth Department Northern Missouri District of the Assemblies of God.  My job was to help lead a group of teenagers on a missions trip to Reynosa, Mexico.  We did a lot of ministry that week, but one moment stands out more than all the others combined.

One afternoon we headed out to an outreach.  I didn’t know exactlly where we were going, only that we reaching out to some children.  As we drove, we passed by parks and schools with tons of kids, so when turned down a dirt road that seemed to be leading to the middle of nowhere I started to question our host missionaries strategic intelligence.

The road didn’t end up leading nowhere, it ended up in the city dump. I remember being confused as to why we were at the dump, and not back at one of the parks we passed, but as soon as we unloaded the truck and turned on the sound system I understood why were there.

When the music started playing people, kids, started coming out….literally from under the trash.

As we ministered in the dump that day I saw poverty first hand.  I saw kids without clean water, without adequate clothing or shoes, with houses made out of cardboard, and families whose food consisted of the trash others had thrown away.

This is a little embarrasing to say, as I was 21 at the time, but until that day I didn’t realize what poverty was.  I honestly don’t know that it had clicked in my brain that there were kids dying every day from malnutrition, from diseases they caught from drinking contaminated water.  I don’t know that I really grasped that there were children who had no homes to live in, or schools to attend.

That moment changed my life.  The size of my world more than doubled that day.  I realized that there is a big world, with a lot of big problems, outside of Missouri.  On that day I vowed that I would be someone who got involved in helping to solve some of these problems.  This one moment in my life is a major reason I am both the sponsor of a Compassion child, and am a Compassion Advocate.  It is a major reason I love BGMC as much as I do, and am driving to Panama to raise support for “No Child Without.”

I’m thankful that I experienced the dump on that day.  It changed my life.

What about you, have you had a moment that changed your life, your perspective, your entire world?

What It Takes To Raise A Great Kid

Raising a great kid takes a combination of things.  Good parent(s), a rockin’ church, and great friends.  It’s best if a kid has all three, but they might be able to get by with only two.

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For example, a kid may turn out great if they have a good home and great friends, even if they have a lousy church.  Or they may turn out okay if they have a great church and great friends, even if their parents stink.  But any combination that involves bad friends is a recipe for disaster.  A kid cannot get by with poor friends.

Even if they have the best parents in the world, and go to an amazing church, if their friends are no good, they will turn out no good.  Augustine, from Christianity past, put it this way, “Friendship can be a dangerous enemy.”  The friends your child chooses will impact them for good, or for bad.

Who are your kid’s friends?  What are you doing to monitor the influences in your child’s life?

Waste [Great Quotes]

To sinful patterns of behavior that never get confronted and changed,


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Abilities and gifts that never get cultivated and deployed-
Until weeks become months
And months turn into years,
And one day you’re looking back on a life of
Deep intimate gut-wrenchingly honest conversations you never had;
Great bold prayers you never prayed,
Exhilarating risks you never took,
Sacrificial gifts you never offered
Lives you never touched,
And you’re sitting in a recliner with a shriveled soul,
And forgotten dreams,
And you realize there was a world of desperate need,
And a great God calling you to be a part of something bigger than yourself-
You see the person you could have become but did not;
You never followed your calling.
You never got out of the boat.

– John Ortberg

Into the Wild – A Glimpse At More Authentic Christianity?

“In April 1992 a young man from a well-to-do family hitchhiked to Alaska and walked alone into the wilderness north of Mt. McKinley.  His name was Christopher Johnson McCandless.  He had given $25,000 in savings to charity, abandoned his car and most of his possessions, burned all the cash in his wallet, and invented a new life for himself.  Four months later, his decomposed body was found by a moose hunter.”

Into the Wild

Those words, found on the cover of Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer, caught my attention.  And, after reading the first full chapter of the book, I was hooked.  I found myself wondering what would cause this kid to walk away from a promising future.  From a family.  From everything, and walk into an abandoned wilderness that would ultimately end up claiming his life.

One letter penned from McCandless to a friend he had made on his journey sheds light into why he made this decision.  McCandless encourages his friend to adopt a similar lifestyle to himself when he writes, “I think you really should make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been to hesitant to attempt.  So many people live with unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventourous spirit within a man than a secure future.  The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure.  The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.  If you want to get more out of life, Ron, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter syle of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy.  But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.”

To be clear after reading the whole book I think there were some flaws to McCandless logic and approach to life, but he was on to something….dare I say, something Biblical.

I am not certain of where McCandless fell in his religious convictions.  Honestly, his adventure to the Alaskan wilderness was probably more a flight from family problems, and disgust with the world, than it was anything else.  Yet, something about this young man’s words seem to ring true with how Christians should approach their world.

“You really should make a radical change in your lifestyle.” Many Christians never change their lifestyle.  After coming to Christ they do the same things, hang out with the same people, engage in the same sins.  The only thing that might change is their location on a Sunday morning.  But Christ hasn’t called us to leave things the same, He has called us to follow Him.  His words to his followers were to leave their pillow, their family, and even their dead behind to bury their own dead.

“Begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been to hesitant to attempt.” Christianity isn’t just about stopping.  It is not all about not smoking, drinking, sleeping around…it is also about doing.  Doing things you would have never dreamed of doing before.  Its about going and serving on a missions trip in the jungles of Peru, or the city of Bucharest.  It’s about not hoarding for yourself, but giving away to meet the physical and spiritual needs of people.  It’s about sharing your time to work with kids on a Sunday rather than watching the football game.  Following Christ is about doing things.   Yet many never really follow Christ, they only sit on a pew in His church.

“So many people live with unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventourous spirit within a man than a secure future.” Christianity is not about safety.  It is not about getting what you want, or living out the American Dream.  It is about laying your life down for the cause of Christ, and risking it all for Him.  It is about surrender.  It is about sacrifice.

“If you want to get more out of life…you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter syle of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy.  But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.” When you are living an authentic Christian life is will first appear crazy to you, and to those around you.  It will seem crazy to give 10%+ your income to your church.  It will seem crazy to give up vacation time to go serve on a missions trip.  It will seem nuts to your neighbors to get up early on a Sunday to go to church.  It will seem ludicrous to give up a weekend on the boat, to spend time serving the needy in the community.  It will seem insane to sell the boat to meet the needs of those in the community.  At first it will seem crazy, but in the end you will see the beauty of living fully for Christ.

What does your life look like?  Is it a safe and secure Christian life?  Or, are you risking everything for the cause of Christ?  Like McCandless discovered, life isn’t meant to be lived safely.  To live life to the full you have to risk it for Him.

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